can boys and girls be a bestfriend?..just a friend??
can boys and girls be a bestfriend?..just a friend??
guys, men, boys, they all mean the same to certain extend.
then there are some who are suitable to be , just friends with.
we call them the buddy type.
they shop, gossip and watch movies with us.
we talk about our men with them and they would totally listen and comment accordingly.
sure you have some guy friends like that.
it’s cool to have men as our best buddies simply because they have a whole different perceptive of everything.
not to say that girlfriends are not cool.
it’s just that men rationalize and look at things from a different angle.
it’s good to look at things from both side of the coin, isn’t it?
plus, it’s logical to get advice about men from a man.
it’s rather refreshing sometimes.
if they’re so cool and understanding, then how come he’s just a friend?
he’s not gay either.
ha ha ha, this is the tricky bit.
some men, we are just not attracted to "that way".
no chemistry and no butterfly in our stomach feeling kind of man.
no sexual attraction and no physical tension.
funny but we can’t explain it.
now, here comes the type of a man who gives us all the above kind of feeling.
it’s the boyfriend material.
how would we know?
well…always believe in a woman instincts.
it’s very powerful, so use it!
these are the men whom you would do anything for.
he makes you feel special because there is some unexplainable connection between you and him.
there’s love.
the major difference between a male buddy and a boyfriend is that, boyfriends can make us feel jealous for no substantial reason.
caught him looking at another girl and we would throw a tantrum, but if our male buddy does that, we would be totally supportive about it.
there is also another type, called THE FACADE-
you both are just friends but deep inside, you are actually "mad" about him but have no guts what so ever to confess.
this is the toughest category.
confess and risk losing a friend?
conceal and have your heart broken every time he talks about another girl he fancies?
both ways you lose.
if you are the bold type, some would say confess.
at least you will feel relieved knowing that he knows, on top of that, the ball is now in his court.
if he doesn’t feel the same about you, at least you know it for sure.
it is strongly suggested you move on with your life after the awkward confession session.
look up, be strong and move on, girls.
on the contrary, some would personally avoid this option- we’ll totally chicken out.
so,which type of men do you have in your life? the buddy? the boyfriend? or the facade?
it’s difficult to categorize them in this manner because some of them can be a mixture of almost everything, creating an unidentified hybrid.
but one thing’s for sure-
our relationship and interaction with men is inevitable.
who and what type of friendship you wish to establish with them, is completely entirely up to you-
as long as you know where to draw the line.
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December 17th, 2006 at 2:36 am
[question]
there is also another type, called THE FACADE- you both are just friends but deep inside, you are ctually “mad” about him but have no guts what so ever to confess. this is the toughest category.
confess and risk losing a friend?
conceal and have your heart broken every time he talks about another girl he fancies?
both ways you lose.
[answer]
tentulah jangan confess. at least sekiranya dengan tidak confess, anda boleh perasan dan syok sendiri dan hidup dalam fantasi bahawa nanti dia akan sedar chemistry itu dan upgrade kepada awek.
walaupun secara statistiknya itu adalah hampir mustahil kerana lelaki begitu sukar meng-upgrade relationship mereka daripada “kawan baik” menjadi “awek”, kerana lelaki secara dasarnya merasakan adalah akward dan pelik dan totally alien oleh menerima kawan baik/kawan rapat sebagai permata hati.
but still, the fantasy makes you feel special (though you’re not). dan, kan pompuan suka fantasi-fantasi nih? kekeke.
^ okeh, hanya sarcasm.sila jangan ikut.
pendapat daripada seorang lelaki?
sila jangan gunakan kata ganti diri “AKU” dan “KO” terhadap kawan yang anda minat. it will totally KILL segala bentuk rasa yang dia ada. penggunaan AKU dan KO (termasuk hang dan aku) akan menghapuskan semua rasa tersebut dan menyebabkan lelaki meng-anggap anda cuma inginkan dia sebagai RAKAN BIASA.
SAYA dan AWAK, ME and YOU, your-name and his-name, KITE dan KAMU, dan etc etc etc boleh digunakan dalam situasi ini. elakkan ‘aku’ dan ‘ko’ seratus peratus.
..continued kat dalam blog aku..
December 17th, 2006 at 6:44 am
if you have a guy-friend that you somewhat like, but use the word AKU dan KO rather casually, then consider yourself screwed.
you could slap yourself now. ahahahaha
(another sarcasm).
December 18th, 2006 at 2:15 am
[answer]
walaupun secara statistiknya itu adalah hampir mustahil kerana lelaki begitu sukar meng-upgrade relationship mereka daripada “kawan baik” menjadi “awek”, kerana lelaki secara dasarnya merasakan adalah akward dan pelik dan totally alien oleh menerima kawan baik/kawan rapat sebagai permata hati.
but still, the fantasy makes you feel special (though you’re not). dan, kan pompuan suka fantasi-fantasi nih? kekeke.
[contrast opinion]
macam lah pompuan itu senang nak ‘upgrade’ dr bestfriend kepada pakwe.. biasanya laki2 yg syok kat bestfren pompuan nih ahahaha…
“the fantasy makes you special” sebenarnya mengambil kesempatan dr kebaikan bestfren bukannya special ponn…don’t u think so??
December 18th, 2006 at 2:57 am
erm.. camni la eQin. lelaki akan approach mana-mana pompuan yang dia rasa cun/comel/cute dan jadikan kawan. sebenarnya title ‘kawan’ tu hanya bagi MENGABURI mata awek tersebut untuk dia mengenali pompuan tersebut.
sekiranya sesuai, title tersebut akan dibuang, dan ditukar menjadi awek. sekiranya tidak, lelaki selalunya akan mula menjauhkan diri dan menjarakkan hubungan (dan seterusnya lost contact).
bagi ‘kawan’ yang memang bermula tanpa sebarang hasrat untuk ditukar kepada awek, lelaki akan be frank, tidak hipokrit, tidak kontrol2, cakap selambe, dan menggunakan AKU dan KO dalam perbualan.
jikalau dia memang dah lama berminat terhadap seseorang perempuan tersebut, dia TIDAK AKAN menunjukkan dirinya yang sebenar (yang secara dasarnya akan memperlihatkan sifat buruk) dan cuba hipokrit untuk nampak baik dan sempurna dan perfect dan super duper nice guy.
jikalau lelaki memang sudah sekian lama minat kat awek tu, percayalah, dia takkan jadikan perempuan tu sebagai bestfren dia.
^ then again, one sided opinion. dan aku tidak mewakili persatuan lelaki-lelaki sedunia. jadi anda tidak boleh gunakan apa yang aku tuliskan sebagai benchmark bagi mewakili pendapat lelaki secara general.